Memories.....
I am not sure why but I keep thinking about this time when I was a teenager and discovered my sister had a horrible burn on her leg.
"OMG!!! What happened to your leg?" I looked at her taking off the taped gauze she had around the back of her calf. "I was pretty drunk and was standing too close to the fire, I had cords on and didn't even know my pantleg was on fire til it really started to burn me" This was a bad burn, I remember seeing red skin with loads of blister, sore and open. "You better tell Mom, that is really a bad burn" She was scared, "no, I can't tell anyone, she will just get mad and yell, I've been taking care of it for a few days now, can you help me?" I was upset to see this injury, how could she of not known her clothes were on fire. "What can I do to help you?" She pointed to a small tube on her dresser, "give me that stuff over there, I've got to make sure I keep it clean and I've been using that" I looked and saw a tube of neosporin, walked over and got it for her. Carfully we applied as much as she could take, then I helped her wrap it back up and tape more gauze over the wound. She was so brave, she didn't cry, she hardly winced as we medicated it daily. Slowly it started to heal, and finally we decided that she should leave the gauze off it at night to let air get at it. My mother never knew, my sister wore pants the rest of that summer to hide it and no one was the wiser.
I try each day to have open communication with my teenager, I hope if anything ever happens like that to her, she would feel safe enough to come to me so I could help her. My sister got lucky, it never got infected and it healed in time. Things could of gone really bad.
posted by maceydoo @ 7:37:00 AM
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Open communication is the only way you can do it! I pound into my childrens head that we have to talk, if you are happy, mad, sad, hurt, whatever! Explaining yea, I might get upset, but at least I know you have enough respect for me that you know we can talk about ANYTHING!!!!
It is really sad that your sister was not able to tell your mom to get her the help she needed. My mom was and still is the same way! I couldn't talk to her then and have no relationship with her now! I never want it to be this way with my children!
Good Luck!
OUCH!!! I think that your daughter would come to you if she were hurt...I truly would not think that she would hide something like that from you! :)
It's scary when I think of how much both Fran and I kept from our parents. I think probably, because of that, we always pushed for an open relationship with our daughter. Lucikly we ended up with a kid who couldn't keep a secret to save herself... still can't! We like it that way! LOL
I think that as long as you always tell your daughter there's nothing she can't come to you about, and you'll help her no matter what, you'll have that open relationship.
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